Book Club Day: Raising Cubby by John Elder Robison

Raising Cubby by John Elder Robison

Raising children is challenging for every parent, but what is parenting like when both father and son have Asperger’s?  In his latest memoir  Raising Cubby: A Father and Son’s Adventures with Asperger’s, Trains, Tractors, and High Explosives, John Elder Robison gives readers an in depth glimpse into his journey into fatherhood. Up through his son’s teenage years, at least.

Today our From Left to Write book club members share their thoughts about special needs, parents, and much more.  Visit their blogs and comment to join the discussion:

 

Make sure to pick up your copy of Raising Cubby. You can learn more about John Elder Robison on his website and connect with him on Facebook.

 

 

 

Book Review: Honeycomb Kids

Honeycomb Kids by Anna M. Campbell

Honeycomb Kids by Anna M. Campbell

Just in time for Earth Day, I received a copy of Honeycomb Kids: Big Picture Parenting for a Changing World and to Change the World! by Anna M. Campbell to review.  I was really excited about this book; I love ideas about raising conscious and aware children that can become productive members of society.  Normally, I find parenting books in and of themselves to be off putting (I’ve checked out more than a few that seem condescending, and mundane).  Happily, I immediately clicked with this author’s relaxed writing style and obvious devotion to her children and family.

Here’s the official synopsis of the book:

Honeycomb Kids is a parenting book for the 21st Century. Including more than 300 practical ideas and activities, it comes with two priceless benefits: not only does it help you prepare your children for an uncertain tomorrow, it also helps you shift to a better family life for today. Reading this book will empower your family to make the most of a world increasingly defined by over-population, rising prices, poor health, fast depleting natural resources and an unstable political, social, environmental and financial landscape. Feeling daunted by these realities? Don’t be! This book shows you how to nurture the timeless values and resilience your children will need to become contributors, not just consumers.

Intriguing, right?  I know!!  Demonstrating her dedication to her family, Campbell and her husband abandoned the fast paced city lifestyle and moved to a farm in the country (oh how I’d love to do that….I live in a rural area, but not a great community! I wish we could move to a farm!).  The book opens with a comprehensive overview of challenges facing our children and world today; she goes on to share what they might have to look forward to if changes don’t happen.  I really liked that with each specific challenge presented, facts and studies were included to back the information up.  It is helpful to have the resource material to learn more about the topics, to both educate ourselves and our kids.

An interesting concept Campbell presented was the concept of the hive.  As noted at the beginning of Part Two:

“A successful beehive is a place of cooperation, industriousness, shared decision-making, planning, determination to survive together, reverence for nature, yummy stuff, and a little bit of magic!  Kind of like the ideal human family!”

Exactly!  I loved it when I read it – I smiled out loud.  Another thing that resonated with me was her discussion of the problem with “helicopter parenting”, and not allowing our children the space (or providing them with the tools) to deal with and overcome adversity.  It is possible to be too encouraging (kids need realism too – maybe they really CAN’T sing, or they DID play poorly in a soccer game).  There’s nothing wrong with giving kids some responsibility to young kids – my six year old can absolutely handle making her pb&j for her lunch at school each day; doing so provides her with a sense of pride and accomplishment (and she knows how to forage in the pantry!).  It does children a disservice when parents try to be superheroes, and handle every minute detail of their little lives.  Just like kids need to get dirty, and play outside, they need to be taught how to handle real-life issues, stresses, and problems.  (No, I’m not saying you should boot them out in the street.  But isn’t it better for you to be the person that teaches them how to handle adversity, rather than the inevitable day come when they have to fend for themselves, and don’t know how? Like the author, I’d much prefer my children learn from me, in a setting I can have some input towards.)

At the close of each chapter, Campbell provides “Thought Launchers and Conversation Starters”.  I enjoyed these sections immensely.  I will admit, often the suggestions were not at all practical for the area I live in (no way would a “time bank” work in my community), but by and large they at least contained a nugget of something we could adapt and use for our family.  And since reading the book, I find myself stopping to think about the way I’m preparing to phrase a question, so that my daughter will benefit the most from the ensuing discussion (my two year old son only participates if we are talking about trains, or Batman!).

I certainly didn’t mean for this review to be so opinionated, or so wordy.  Thanks for sticking with me!  Here’s what you should take away from what I’m saying about this book: it’s definitely a keeper.  It’s an easy read, full of thought-provoking discussions and ideas on raising well-rounded kids.  The author is someone I wish I was friends with, and I’m so grateful she shared her life experiences in this book!

Quick Facts:
Paperback: 264 pages
Publisher: Cape Able (April 6, 2012)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0980747503
ISBN-13: 978-0980747508
Author Bio: Anna M. Campbell

*I received a complimentary copy of this book to review. All opinions are my own; no other compensation was given.

Book Club Day: Expecting Adam by Martha Beck

It’s amazing how parenting views can change in twenty years. When Martha Beck was Expecting Adam, many people she knew were dismayed that she decided too keep her pregnancy after learning that Adam had Down syndrome.Today From Left to Write members share their stories inspired by Expecting Adam:

Don’t forget to join us today at 1PM Eastern and chat live with Martha Beck!  Even if you haven’t read Expecting Adam!

November Book Club: Expecting Adam by Martha Beck

Expecting Adam by Martha Beck

Expecting Adam by Martha Beck

It’s not quite November yet, but our book club members are excited about our next month’s book club selection, Martha Beck’s Expecting Adam: A True Story of Birth, Rebirth, and Everyday Magic (Three Rivers Press).  Martha Beck is a prolific writer and is well known for her monthly column in O. Magazine.

In Expecting Adam, Martha Beck writes a bit closer to home. Originally published in 1999, her memoir reveals the months leading up to the birth of her Down Syndrome son Adam and his childhood years. This  new edition includes  a new chapter from the author.

   John and Martha Beck had two Harvard degrees apiece when they conceived their second child. Further graduate studies, budding careers, and a growing family meant major stress–not that they’d have admitted it to anyone (or themselves). As the pregnancy progressed, Martha battled constant nausea and dehydration. And when she learned her unborn son had Down syndrome, she battled nearly everyone over her decision to continue the pregnancy. She still cannot explain many of the things that happened to her while she was expecting Adam, but by the time he was born, Martha, as she puts it, “had to unlearn virtually everything Harvard taught [her] about what is precious and what is garbage.”

Parents will find the memoir fascinating as we learn how the medical profession and society dealt with special needs in the 1990s as compared to today. Grab you copy and come back on November 10 as From Left to Write members discuss Martha Beck’s Expecting Adam.

Good Enough Is The New Perfect Book Club Day

Good Enough Is The New Perfect

Thanks to our mothers and grandmothers, we have array of choices when it comes to career, marriage, and motherhood. Previous generations of women had limited career options and were expected to stay home once they had children.

Becky Gillespie and Hollee Temple, authors of Good Enough Is the New Perfect: Finding Happiness and Success in Modern Motherhood explore how this shift has affected the kind of mothers we have become. Just because we can do everything, does it mean we should? Are we settling when we say good enough is enough?

From Left to Write members explore the same dilemmas and challenges that Becky and Hollee write about in their book:

Are you a recovering perfectionist?