Today is our live chat with Martha Beck. Join us at 1PM Eastern as we discuss her book Expecting Adam. We’ll be talking pregnancy, special needs, angels, special signs, work-life balance and much more! If you have any questions for Martha, please submit them in the comments below.
If you haven’t read Expecting Adam, check out From Left to Write members’ posts inspired by Martha Beck’s memoir.
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Guest_39November 9, 2011 - 8:13 pmWelcome to our chat with Martha Beck! She will join us live at 1PM Eastern, so please join us then.November 10, 2011 - 8:44 amJoyceNovember 10, 2011 - 8:54 amHi everyone! Thanks for joining us. We'll start in about 7 minutes!November 10, 2011 - 8:56 amLOL It tweets like a bird when someone says something. I just ducked when I heard it, like a bird was flying around my office.November 10, 2011 - 8:57 amKristine, it's Kim here. i just heard it too. Hadn't tested the sound before nowNovember 10, 2011 - 8:58 amNew to Left to Write and a huge Martha Beck fan.November 10, 2011 - 8:58 amWelcome Jackie! Glad to have you visit.November 10, 2011 - 8:59 amWhile you're waiting for Martha to arrive,take a look at our bloggers' take on Martha's book: http://bit.ly/v4XLaFNovember 10, 2011 - 8:59 amI really connected to Expecting Adam. I love when that happens.November 10, 2011 - 9:00 amKristine, I can't even imagine what it was like for Martha. I remember how agonizing it was to even decide if we wanted to test our baby for Down syndromeNovember 10, 2011 - 9:02 amWho has read Expecting Adam?November 10, 2011 - 9:02 amMy situation is pretty unique still. I was 38 but pregnant with an embryo of a 29 year old woman. So while I was high risk, the fetus wasn't. We still did testing, but did not go as far as an amnio, etc. We still had some semi scary months because of an ultrasound. I really just believed it was going to be ok though, and it was.November 10, 2011 - 9:03 am@Guest_325: @From Left to Write: HELLOOOOO! IT'S MARTHA! ANYONE OUT THERE??Martha!!!!! yayhellooooooooooolove that "hello" ....November 10, 2011 - 9:04 amHi Martha! What a pleasure to be a part of this energy!November 10, 2011 - 9:04 amHi Martha!November 10, 2011 - 9:04 amHi Martha! It's a pleasureNovember 10, 2011 - 9:05 amHi Martha! Glad you can join us! If you'll change @guest_299 to Martha (in box right above the place to enter your text) so we'll know it's you!November 10, 2011 - 9:05 am@Kristine (Mommy Needs Therapy): @Guest_325: @From Left to Write: @Kristine (Mommy Needs Therapy): @From Left to Write: @From Left to Write:November 10, 2011 - 9:05 am"expecting adam" was the first book of yours that I read and I was hooked!November 10, 2011 - 9:06 amHi everyone! Welcome to From Left to Write. We're really glad to have Martha here to chat with us.November 10, 2011 - 9:06 amOkay, this is Martha again--I got help from my son. Who has Down syndrome. And they think HE's the one with issues? Thank you all SO MUCH for joining me!November 10, 2011 - 9:06 amHey, everyone! Thank you so much for joining me!November 10, 2011 - 9:06 amthank YOU for being hereNovember 10, 2011 - 9:07 amMartha, thank you opening yourself and sharing what must have been such a challenging part of your life! How did you prepare your family before Expecting Adam was published?November 10, 2011 - 9:08 amAre we supposed to be hearing each other? I'm so honored by your kind words and simply by the fact that you've read my book. It's overwhelming to think how alone I felt when I was going through that pregnancy, and how kind you are all being to me in retrospect!November 10, 2011 - 9:08 amIt's a text only chat, but you might hear a bird chirping if you turn on the sound notificationNovember 10, 2011 - 9:09 amThe book came out when my kids were 11, 9, and 7, and I frankly thought it would die quietly, so I didn't do anything to prepare them. Notice a pattern here? Luckily, they're awesome and handled it beautifully.November 10, 2011 - 9:09 amEveryone, please feel free to jump in with any questions for Martha-she's Guest_299November 10, 2011 - 9:09 amMartha - I think that is one of the reasons I connected so much to you and to your book. Raising a special needs child I've felt that overwhelming "alone-ness."November 10, 2011 - 9:10 amIt says "Martha" is already taken. I am, too. I'm very taken by all of you!November 10, 2011 - 9:10 amUm, it won't let me use "Martha." Says it's already taken. Martha Stewart, would you please leave me in peace????November 10, 2011 - 9:10 amLOL. OK. Guest_299 is a special name as wellNovember 10, 2011 - 9:11 amTry MarthaBNovember 10, 2011 - 9:12 amMartha: I just wrote another book in which I talk about how Adam has taught me to see; it occurred to me that he took me from "aloneness" to "all-oneness." Open yourself to the experience, and you'll find unexpected magic happening. Really.November 10, 2011 - 9:12 amMartha - did you plan your third pregnancy? Were you ever concerned that adding a third child would be too much?November 10, 2011 - 9:12 amI'm going to dive right in with a question from one of our members, Marianne of http://www.writer-mommy.com/ There are many “supernatural” events to which you refer in this book, the majority happening durng your pregnancy. In the years since Adam arrived and since this book was published, how have those events (and any that have occured since the publishing of the book) affected and/or deepened your spirituality/faith?November 10, 2011 - 9:13 amOkay, point one: I did plan my third pregnancy, although really John was more urgent about it than I felt. It was lucky I had another child soon, because my body completely gave out not long after.November 10, 2011 - 9:14 amIn answer to the "supernatural" events: I've come to see them as utterly natural. I think it's unnatural NOT to experience them, and our culture actually suppresses them the way the Victorians suppressed sexuality.November 10, 2011 - 9:15 am@MarthaB Do you think that your "supernatural" events are what some might call their intuition?November 10, 2011 - 9:15 amAdam is incredibly psychic--always knows what's happening to me no matter where I am, knows how to get complex information to others when he really still doesn't talk much. After 23 years, I'm tired of dancing around the issue--I long ago lost my ability to deny the evidence that there's something spooky about that little man.November 10, 2011 - 9:15 amI felt very challenged by your idea to believe everything until proven false, instead of only believing if proven true. That's a tough one for a scientist.November 10, 2011 - 9:16 amWe call it intuition, we call it a gut feeling, we call it love. Call it whatever you like, the joy is that we have a huge field of reality to play around in. I absolutely believe science will understand it one day. But for now, it looks pretty darn magical!November 10, 2011 - 9:16 amThis is a good lead in to a question from Jennie B of http://www.wantapeanut.com : I was troubled by the idea that Adam was somehow more magical than your other children. What do your daughters think about this? How did your subsequent pregnancy, after you found your new spirituality, compare to your time expecting Adam?November 10, 2011 - 9:18 amBut the issue is that if you believe nothing until it's proven true, you literally CAN'T BELIEVE ANYONE. Descartes pointed out that you could be dreaming your life. Everything is filtered through perception--and we've known for almost 100 years--scientifically--that perception not only filters reality, but in some way determines it. Einstein had trouble believing it at first, too, but then he had to acknowledge the experimental evidence.November 10, 2011 - 9:18 amThere's nothing more magical than a mother's intuition in my opinion. We just don't always understand the power of it, and therefore have a hard time recognizing it. Just had to say that real quick.November 10, 2011 - 9:19 amMy kids, and your kids, and you, are all much more interesting than we typically believe. My daughters are natural mystics, though I left them to develop their own beliefs (had enough religion stuffed into me as a kids, didn't want to do that). My daughters also know that Adam is different, that he shines in a strange way, and they know that does nothing to diminish their own magic.November 10, 2011 - 9:19 am@Kristine (Mommy Needs Therapy): that's an interesting thought. I feel like we need to believe everything we see/feel is true in order to make sense of lifeNovember 10, 2011 - 9:20 amThere are two ways to see the world (paraphrasing Einstein again): as though nothing is a miracle, or as though everything is a miracle. Both equally potentially true, but for me, the second one's more fun!November 10, 2011 - 9:21 am@MarthaB: Do you still feel the presence of puppeteers (from Melanie @ http://myattkids.blogspot.com/)November 10, 2011 - 9:21 amJust having read the book has opened my eyes to the magic of my life and my kids. Thank you for that, Martha!November 10, 2011 - 9:21 amAdam has taught me not to hold any belief too tightly. I know that I really don't know anything, and that's okay. More than okay, it's a joyful, liberating truth!November 10, 2011 - 9:22 amI think it is very much about opening yourself up. Hopefully my brain is evolving as I get older and "wiser." It's easier to accept without proof, even though my education/training is so strongly focused on "evidenced based."November 10, 2011 - 9:23 amI have a question for Joyce: Do you ever feel as if YOU have puppeteers? It could be my unconscious brain, or Smurfs, or whatever, but I do often feel that way. Yesterday I was teaching a workshop and for some reason turned on my cell phone mid-class. At that moment a client called, sobbing, having just undergone a trauma. Why did I turn on my phone? I don't know.November 10, 2011 - 9:23 am@Kristine (Mommy Needs Therapy): My younger self (albeit 5 years ago) was very negative, until I learned how to open myself to the positive energy around me. I'm a very practical person and back then didn't believe in that "hippie dippie stuff"November 10, 2011 - 9:24 amSo how do you decide what -- of all the the unproven theories and people -- to believe?November 10, 2011 - 9:25 amI'm a very different person than I thought I would be prior to adopting Noah. I have learned so much from him, even as we struggle. I like the "me" I am now much better, but I never, ever saw myself becoming this person. If that makes sense. Sorry, I am monopolizing this chat.November 10, 2011 - 9:26 am@MarthaB does your husband all experience puppeteers? Your daughters?November 10, 2011 - 9:26 amYes, Martha, I do feel that way sometimes. But I what I was trying to say before, is that I don't think I would have paid any attention to the coincidences. After reading your book, I began to look at it differently. It's so much more fun! And I am in awe of the way things unfold sometimes...this is a gift that you have given to me. And I have passed it along to some of my friends who have, in turn, read the book.November 10, 2011 - 9:29 am@MarthaB Just wanted to jump in for a second and say how much I enjoy your writing. I'm still reading Expecting Adam (I have a 3 month old so not a lot of time to read) and look forward to finishing it.November 10, 2011 - 9:29 amMY COMMENTS AREN"T POSTING! HELP!November 10, 2011 - 9:29 amOh Oh,did we lose Martha?November 10, 2011 - 9:29 amI answered about five questoins before I had to log out--nothing was posting. sorry!November 10, 2011 - 9:29 amSorry Martha, I think there was a glitch. We see you!November 10, 2011 - 9:30 amThanks for your patience everyoneNovember 10, 2011 - 9:32 amI'm so sorry about the technical difficulties. Let's move the chat to our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/fromlefttowriteNovember 10, 2011 - 9:35 amDid everyone go to Facebook? I'm there!November 10, 2011 - 9:36 ami am too ....November 10, 2011 - 9:36 amI'm on FB, hop on over! https://www.facebook.com/fromlefttowriteNovember 10, 2011 - 9:38 ammartha is on the facebook link ... click above .... it doesn't seem anyone is thereNovember 10, 2011 - 9:38 amYou m ight have to refresh the page to see new postsNovember 10, 2011 - 9:39 amI'm there!Powered by Quick Chat